What Is Beautiful Is Good
Physical appearance……. And attraction based on physical appearance. It has been around since the time of Adam and Eve. Genealogy if you will.
My first question is this: Why do people get so upset that the Anti Gym believes in physical appearance, attractiveness, sexiness and vanity?
Lets be brutally honest people. Would you ever date someone that is physically repulsive? Humans find a spouse when they are attracted to them…. THEN they find out that the inside is great as well. Women love a man that is missing a gut, has a nice ass, accompanied by a trim chest and strong arms! Men love a woman who has a great figure: low body fat, amazing proportions, a flat stomach, boobs and a nice toosh. Simple as that!! “You won’t get a hubby if you are a chubby” is a harsh but true statement. Who is going to deny you have a better pool of men to pick from if you are in great shape and beautiful? Who is going to deny also that you have a better chance of finding an attractive, smart, sexy, sophisticated woman if you are a lean, strapping man?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder? I don’t think so (maybe to a very slight extent. VERY SLIGHT). 250 pound women and 300 pound men are not beautiful or sexy. They will have a hard time finding a hubby.......... so get over it! You won't get a guy until you drop the pie! The basis of any courtship, date or relationship is basic physical attraction. If you are not attracted to someone and they are not attracted to you, you have just become friends.
If looks didn’t matter, and size and weight don’t matter, then why do overweight people buy designer clothes? Why do they wear spanx and garters? TO LOOK BETTER and TO SLIM THEIR FIGURES!
Whether you think you are good looking, great looking, hot, sexy, nerdy, whatever….. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE! You also know who and what you are attracted to. Initial dates are all about looks, about who and what we find attractive and we are foolish if we try and suppress these desires. The key thing though is that we must not underplay the reality that looks are important when dating.
Many have asserted that certain advantages tend to come to those that are perceived as being more attractive, including the ability to get better jobs and promotions, receiving better treatment from authorities, having more choices in romantic partners and, therefore, more power in relationships, and marrying into families with more money.
In the area of employment decision making, attractiveness also influences interviewers’ judgments of job applicants. Physical attractiveness can have a significant effect on how people are judged in terms of social opportunities, friendship, sexual behavior and marriage! In many cases, humans attribute positive characteristics (intelligence and honestly) to attractive people without consciously realizing it.
Physical attractiveness can have real effects. A survey conducted by London Guildhall University of 11,000 people showed that those who subjectively describe themselves as physically attractive earn more income than others who would describe themselves as less attractive. People who described themselves as less attractive earned, on average, 13% less than those who described themselves as more attractive, while the penalty for being overweight was around 5%. Another study indicated that physical attractiveness in men plays an even larger role for salary than it does for women, contributing as much as 40% to earnings. Other factors such as self-confidence may explain or influence these findings. But, with a healthy appearance and physical splendor comes confidence. Even these considerations would suggest a significant role for physical appearance.
The bias in favor of physically attractive people is robust, with attractive people being perceived as more sociable, happier and more successful than unattractive people. Attractiveness biases have been statistically proven and demonstrated in such different areas as teacher judgments of students, voter preferences for political candidates and jury judgments in simulated trails.
The suggestion that beauty is goodness is very relevant in the United States. Even in films, attractive characters were portrayed more favorably than unattractive characters on multiple dimensions.
All commercials, movies and sitcoms use attractive actors and actresses to make money. Why? We as normal humans watch and buy products from eye catching men and women! Do you really think that Jessica Simpson or Brittany Spears were great singers? Do you really think that Jessica Alba and Lindsey Lohan were terrific actresses, and landed their first jobs because of their talent? NO! Lohan was a cute little girl, and Alba has always been a sex pot in America! Same with Matt Damon and Brad Pitt. They are talented men, but their physical appearance gave them the upper hand in the industry, and helped them become the stars they are today! Haven’t ever heard a woman say she would choose Chris Farley over David Beckham.
There is a bottom line. Looks DO count!! Looks matter in the dating game, media and your daily life. It maybe unfair, we may hate it, but it is true. Image is king and speaks volumes about who we are. From the clothes we wear, to the places we eat and drink to the places we decide to inhabit, people notice what we do and make judgments as to who we are by how we look. People will often say that one should not care about what is outside but what is inside that matters. Its true. That is the way the world should be, but it isn’t! That kind of comment usually comes from those who are secretly worried about the way they look.
We are stuck in a modern society. We can pretend that men and women who seek physical perfection are shallow and outdated, but they are only following their basic instincts. We can disguise and we can pretend and we can plead for others to look at our inner selves first and we can spend months chatting on an Internet dating site to show how nice we are. But, in the end…..vanity is sanity! And chubbies don’t get hubbies!!!
My first question is this: Why do people get so upset that the Anti Gym believes in physical appearance, attractiveness, sexiness and vanity?
Lets be brutally honest people. Would you ever date someone that is physically repulsive? Humans find a spouse when they are attracted to them…. THEN they find out that the inside is great as well. Women love a man that is missing a gut, has a nice ass, accompanied by a trim chest and strong arms! Men love a woman who has a great figure: low body fat, amazing proportions, a flat stomach, boobs and a nice toosh. Simple as that!! “You won’t get a hubby if you are a chubby” is a harsh but true statement. Who is going to deny you have a better pool of men to pick from if you are in great shape and beautiful? Who is going to deny also that you have a better chance of finding an attractive, smart, sexy, sophisticated woman if you are a lean, strapping man?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder? I don’t think so (maybe to a very slight extent. VERY SLIGHT). 250 pound women and 300 pound men are not beautiful or sexy. They will have a hard time finding a hubby.......... so get over it! You won't get a guy until you drop the pie! The basis of any courtship, date or relationship is basic physical attraction. If you are not attracted to someone and they are not attracted to you, you have just become friends.
If looks didn’t matter, and size and weight don’t matter, then why do overweight people buy designer clothes? Why do they wear spanx and garters? TO LOOK BETTER and TO SLIM THEIR FIGURES!
Whether you think you are good looking, great looking, hot, sexy, nerdy, whatever….. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE! You also know who and what you are attracted to. Initial dates are all about looks, about who and what we find attractive and we are foolish if we try and suppress these desires. The key thing though is that we must not underplay the reality that looks are important when dating.
Many have asserted that certain advantages tend to come to those that are perceived as being more attractive, including the ability to get better jobs and promotions, receiving better treatment from authorities, having more choices in romantic partners and, therefore, more power in relationships, and marrying into families with more money.
In the area of employment decision making, attractiveness also influences interviewers’ judgments of job applicants. Physical attractiveness can have a significant effect on how people are judged in terms of social opportunities, friendship, sexual behavior and marriage! In many cases, humans attribute positive characteristics (intelligence and honestly) to attractive people without consciously realizing it.
Physical attractiveness can have real effects. A survey conducted by London Guildhall University of 11,000 people showed that those who subjectively describe themselves as physically attractive earn more income than others who would describe themselves as less attractive. People who described themselves as less attractive earned, on average, 13% less than those who described themselves as more attractive, while the penalty for being overweight was around 5%. Another study indicated that physical attractiveness in men plays an even larger role for salary than it does for women, contributing as much as 40% to earnings. Other factors such as self-confidence may explain or influence these findings. But, with a healthy appearance and physical splendor comes confidence. Even these considerations would suggest a significant role for physical appearance.
The bias in favor of physically attractive people is robust, with attractive people being perceived as more sociable, happier and more successful than unattractive people. Attractiveness biases have been statistically proven and demonstrated in such different areas as teacher judgments of students, voter preferences for political candidates and jury judgments in simulated trails.
The suggestion that beauty is goodness is very relevant in the United States. Even in films, attractive characters were portrayed more favorably than unattractive characters on multiple dimensions.
All commercials, movies and sitcoms use attractive actors and actresses to make money. Why? We as normal humans watch and buy products from eye catching men and women! Do you really think that Jessica Simpson or Brittany Spears were great singers? Do you really think that Jessica Alba and Lindsey Lohan were terrific actresses, and landed their first jobs because of their talent? NO! Lohan was a cute little girl, and Alba has always been a sex pot in America! Same with Matt Damon and Brad Pitt. They are talented men, but their physical appearance gave them the upper hand in the industry, and helped them become the stars they are today! Haven’t ever heard a woman say she would choose Chris Farley over David Beckham.
There is a bottom line. Looks DO count!! Looks matter in the dating game, media and your daily life. It maybe unfair, we may hate it, but it is true. Image is king and speaks volumes about who we are. From the clothes we wear, to the places we eat and drink to the places we decide to inhabit, people notice what we do and make judgments as to who we are by how we look. People will often say that one should not care about what is outside but what is inside that matters. Its true. That is the way the world should be, but it isn’t! That kind of comment usually comes from those who are secretly worried about the way they look.
We are stuck in a modern society. We can pretend that men and women who seek physical perfection are shallow and outdated, but they are only following their basic instincts. We can disguise and we can pretend and we can plead for others to look at our inner selves first and we can spend months chatting on an Internet dating site to show how nice we are. But, in the end…..vanity is sanity! And chubbies don’t get hubbies!!!
posted by Anti-Gym at
10:59 AM
